A Blogger’s Advance Directives Journey

The typical blogger doesn’t focus on advance medical directives.

Maybe you’ll find an occasional post here or there.

But Dia Osborn isn’t a typical blogger.

Her blog, “The Odd and Unmentionable” is subtitled, “Considering Dying and Other Curious Things.”

Over the past few weeks, Dia has been tackling the difficult issues surrounding advance directives.

She started off Part I with this: Confession: I haven’t done my advance directive yet.

Why? As Dia says, this stuff is “scary and confusing.”

She goes on to remind the reader that if you’re over 18, “this sucker is a good thing to have.” You should read the rest. It’s very good.

And, Dia was just getting started.

In Part II, Osborn gets into definitions, like, what are the various components of a advance directive? This article provides great information, presented with wit and insight. Don’t miss it.

By Part III, Dia is ready to dive into the details. She focuses on an important question: where can you find good advance directives forms? She lists five sources and describes what she sees as Pros and Cons of each. One of those five is MyDirectives.com, a site with which we’re affiliated. Dia’s thorough, objective review of the options is a very valuable service. We highly recommend checking this piece out.

Part IV’s title poses one of the key questions about advance directives: Will They Be There When We Need ‘Em? There’s nothing more important than loved ones and caregivers being able to quickly access an up-to-date directive in an emergency. Dia found three services that meet this important criteria. MyDirectives’ universal Advance Digital Directive™ (uADD™) is the only one that offers this service for free.

Finally, in Part V, Osborn recaps what she’s learned. Like, it’s a good idea to take it slow. She realized how little she and her partner (whom she calls, “the hubster”) actually knew about the many choices modern medical technology raises. Maybe most importantly? Going through the process with a loved one led to a major surprise:

But now I’m discovering there’s an additional…and even more profound…benefit to the hubster’s and my conversations: They’re improving the quality of our life and relationship right now. I’m not kidding. We’ve been together for twenty-three years and we’re learning things about one another we never knew before. Plus, each of us is coming up with unique questions…and insights…and fears…and strengths…that the other gets to learn from, too. The sense of alliance and trust we already had is getting deeper as we go.

We totally have each other’s backs.

Dia’s series has chronicled a fascinating personal journey that we all can benefit from. And, it’s not over. She promises to discuss her personal advance directive choices in Part VI.

We look forward to that!

Thanks very much for so generously sharing your experiences with us, Dia!

Update: In Part VI, Dia talks about her own advance directives choices. In Part VII, she talks about “the hubster’s,” with his permission, of course, noting that, like everything else, dying is about relationships.

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